Do any atheists/agnostics in alt.atheism have theist friends with whom you can discuss atheism and theism? Does having these friends help to keep you tolerant of relion followers?
They haven't made me more tolerant of religion because I'm tolerant of most things that are none of my business. But then they don't try to force their religion on me.
I posted this story my Muslim friend told me a while back. He's one of the funniest guys I know and I nearly fell out of my chair on this one. He swears it's true.
I have a friend from Iran who came to America about ten years ago. He got involved with a very lively local church that has an outreach program for immigrants. They invited him to a service and of course considering the help they had given him he accepted. He's a very proper Muslim and a true gentleman and wouldn't think of
doing anything to offend. His English wasn't very good but he didn't think it would matter. He was sitting next to the rather large lady who had invited him and was sort of squeezed in between her and another lady. As I mentioned, it's a lively church and it didn't take long for the congregation to start responding to the preachers sermon. The lady next to my friend threw up her hands, turned to him and
started shouting "hallelujah hallelujah!" He thought he had accidentally touched her improperly, which can get a body hurt in Iran, and that she was yelling "to hell with you, to hell with you!" He leapt to his feet and ran for the door but a couple of ushers grabbed him near the exit and asked what was wrong. In a panic he shouted "I swear by all that is holy, I did not touch that woman!" It took a bit for them to realize what had happened and to calm him down but he was very happy to get out alive and never did go back. (atheist@home#1554)
But, I lost a friend to religion (altough not a theist one, to be precise): he was a quite intelligent guy, but one day, he started with Amway, and landed in Scientology a year later. At that time, any conservation with him turned into proselytizing.
My other friends are/were all atheists.
Not really. My tolerance is based on the knowledge that most religion followers (at least around me) think belief is a private matter. (Daneel #323)
So, I have friends of christian beliefs, jewish beliefs, muslim, buddhist, and a variety of pagan beliefs. Each one adds to my understanding of others and myself. You can't attempt to live in a vacuum of people who only agree with you. That is what leads to fanaticism. We see that here quite a bit.
I appreciate all of the people in my life. After hanging around in AA for a time it can be easy to think negatively about a group of people and only keeping personal contact with people can make it possible to rehumanize them. (ClayeSkye #4)
What I liked about the guy was that although he disagreed with me, he did remain civil, and didn't try to proselytize me. I found it interesting to listen to his views and we started having regular lunchtime discussions.
When I left the company, he told me that our discussions had made his faith stronger, and I told him that they helped sharpen and define my views about atheism and religion. We still keep in touch, and actually I miss those talks. I think it shows that atheists and theists can get along, with just a little mutual respect and courtesy. Unfortunately not all theists are like my friend. (John Hachmann #1782)
I have had a number of theist friends, including a YEC, none of whom ever tried to convert me (yes, that even includes the YEC). I have had some fascinating conversations with theists and agnostics.
To be honest, so long as someone's views don't impede me in anyway, I am happy for them to hold them. I don't really see it as my place to tolerate them or not.
The sort of theist I definitely won't get on with are the sort who try and convert you, even after being told politely that you aren't interested. Usually born agains or JW's, IME. As for atheism, I explain my beliefs if I am asked but I have never found the for's and against's of atheism that interesting a topic compared to Morality vs. Amorality, say. ("The" Owen #1883)
There's an old wives' tale that goes something like this, "Friends should never
discuss baseball, politics, or religion." If you really care for someone, as a
person, this is probably a pretty wise thing to go by. (Hellhammer #1876)
Aside from those discussions, most of my friends are atheists or just don't give a hoot. I had one case of atheist-intolerance at work, but it was squelched pretty
quick. Seems the intolerant one had been preaching to others besides me. As to my own tolerance, it's the same as here: Don't preach at me and I won't atheize at you.
(Fred Stone #1369)
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