If you are/were a parent raising your child without religion, how would/did you handle someone who, in spite of your expressed wish not to raise your child/children religiously, tried to teach your child/children religion for
you?
However, I also would have -- hopefully before this became an issue -- begun to teach my child about the alternatives to the god idea and the various religions
that have grown out of the various versions of that idea. And I would have given that child basic information about religion and the various devises used by its practitioners to snare the unwary.
I think the best sort of inoculation for the disease of religion is thorough familiarity with it. (George Ricker #226)
The only strong religious influence (meant to convert to or sustain the family religion) is from parents. Even then the secular attitudes often have a nicely diluting effect. (I get some wonderful reports from my daughter about the only *really* religious girl among her acquaintance. Even there - the kid gets the sympathy, the mother the raised eyebrow.) (Diem Marshal #1459)
If they did it again, I would tell them exactly what I thought about them and
their irrational myths, and to stay the
The third time, if it happened, well I hope that I wouldn't become too violent. I wonder what sort of legal action one could take in such a case? I think at minimum, I would try to get some kind of a restraining order. (John Hachmann #1782)
If the kid in question is a bit older, and the adult in question took the more benign approach of telling the child what they believe, it might actually open the door to some open communication. The parent could, at that point, spend some time discussing the many, many
beliefs that have been held by different cultures and societies. Everything from the ancient gods to the more recent belief systems could be touched on, as well as the atheistic POV. Then one could tell the child that the best thing for them to do is learn as much as possible about all the opposing views, think long and hard about which stance strikes them as being most logical and reasonable, and leave it up to the child.
As much as it would pain me to see the kid fall into the clutches of some religious fanaticism, it seems like telling them that my views are right because I say so, case closed, would be a *very* bad idea. The old "lure of the forbidden" thing might come back to bite me on the ass in that situation.
Anyway, I don't have children, and I'm reasonably sure that I never will, so maybe I'm waaay off base here. My younger sisters constantly baffle me, so I'm far from an expert on child behavior. The above just seems like a reasonable way to handle the situation. (Tess #605)
Would you apply your proposed standard to everything the kid wanted to learn about? Your 6 year old comes home and says "Mommy, Mr. Johnson wanted to teach me how to shoot a shotgun. Can I go?" "Mommy, Mr. Azid wants to tell me how Allah is the only God and Muhammad is His prophet. Can I go?" "Mommy, Jerry wants to let me listen to Eminem, can I?"
To all of these examples, I would discuss the situation and probably let the kid go...IF the child was old enough to make an informed judgement. The stipulated 6 year old would not be. After 10, it gets much hazier. Your statement of letting the child choose is overly simplistic. (The Jester #774)
He was looking out the window in RI class. The teacher, trying to be sarcastic I think, asked if he didn't think he should learn about Jesus. He told her that the stories about Thor and Loki and the Ice Giants were better, stories about jesus were boring, "He never did anything, just talked and got killed" (sums it up pretty well) I was invited to the school for a "Chat", very ominous. I was confronted by the RI teacher and the Head, it didn't go well. Mrs whatever-her-name-was, the Ri teacher opened the batting;
Did I know that my child thought that RI was a joke?
I replied, "Yes?
and that he was
disrupting the rest of the class?
In what way "disrupting"?
It was my xtian duty to se that my children were properly instructed in xtianity.
Me, "Does that include Muslims and Hindus?"
We were talking about "english" xtian children.
Me, "We are not english, nor xtian"
Mrs whatever-her-name-was then accused me of being evasive, I sounded english
enough to her.
The head joins in, he has been looking through his files.
"Gene scored very well in his last RI test"
Me "I should hope he did"
Two surprised looks.
Mrs whatever-her-name-was, "But you said that you are not a xtian".
Me, "It counts towards his exams"
Silence.
Head master, "Well if you could tell him to just look like he is paying attention"
Me, "I'll speak to him"... "Was there anything else?".
There wasn't.
The next RI class, and every RI class after that, my son was stuck at the back of the class in the corner by the window, right where he wanted to be. (Puck #162)
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